I’ve been sharing my wife since the pandemic days and since then we’ve been able to easily distinguish great bulls from terrible one. If we were to tag one essential question that separates the two, it would be, “is he a giver or a taker?” If you are looking for a dominant bull, they still need to be givers. Remember, this whole lifestyle revolves around the pleasure of your wife. Catering to her needs. You derive your enjoyment from her enjoyment. Her enjoyment is dependent on whether the bull cares about her pleasure vs solely his pleasure. If the bull is a giver, then your wife will give back to him in a way that makes all three of you happy. If the bull is a taker, then the wife and the husband will never be fully into it.

Anyone aspiring for this role: yes experience with a couple is important but not nearly as important as experience with just a woman. Think back on all of your previous sexual encounters and ask yourself, “did I put her first?” “Was this memorable for her?” “Did becoming a giver prompt her to give as well?” “Did she feel safe?” “Did she feel desired?”

We didn’t start asking for references until the third or 4th guy. The guys who moved to prime candidates all had one thing in common.. previous couples said they felt safe and wanted.

Hope this helps.