I’ve come to realise that my biggest fantasy is my desire for pleasuring Hotwives in ways their partner isn’t capable of, and even though I’ve had a few amazing experiences that somewhat fell into my lap, it’s very difficult to meet the right people that are expecting the same scenario as me. 

I like the IDEA of being a bull in a cuckhold dynamic but would never have another man in the same room as me while I’m fucking a woman, so Hotwives that play solo while humiliating their partner over the phone a dynamic I'm interested in…but these woman have been very difficult to find and If I have found them, I don’t understand how to navigate the dynamic. 

Are Hotwives that play solo particularly uncommon? And even more so, Hotwives that also have a humiliation dynamic with their partner? 

How do you approach these couples in the first message? I’m unsure if I should be flirtatious or a matter of fact exchange of information. 

Does the couple expect a level of flirting towards the wife while an air of disrespect to the partner while messaging each other? I avoid blatant sexual remarks or strong compliments about the girl if Im talking to the partner but then some guys enjoy having their wife praised and sexualised. It’s so hard to find what my boundaries are. It can kill the vibe if you go too far either way. A guy might mention he wants to be humiliated so is he expecting me to gently introduce that now or mention what he's about to endure? 😂

Something I have noticed is that If I mention that a major part of my fantasy is to put all of the attention and effort towards the woman and her pleasure, and giving her multiple orgasms which is a huge turn on, especially seeing her reaction. Almost every time I’ve mentioned this to the partner, the conversation partially dies and he acts ignorant of it. Whether it’s couples not believing I have spent years (out of insecurity If I’m being honest) learning how to please women correctly or a jealousy thing. I’m not sure. 

Lastly, I use RHP for this and have yet to use reddit to expand my horizons to find what I want. What is the typical etiquette for messaging Hotwives or couples on here?