I have previously posted advice for aspiring bulls who are trying to connect with cuckold couples online. As an experienced bull I felt I had an educated enough position to give such advice. I am also however in a relationship and enjoy being the submissive hubby so I have plenty of experience in that area as well. I also have spent plenty of time chatting with guys for my partner to play with. Because of that I thought it fruitful to pass on some advice to couples trying to connect with bulls online as couples are far from perfect themselves.

Husbands

Bulls are fully aware that 95% of cuckold couples profile are control and conversed by the husbands. Don’t try to fool bulls otherwise. Bulls deal with enough fakes and have short tempers for such things.

Communication with your wife is key. Make sure she is aware of what is going on or you are just wasting everyone’s time and shows the kind of person you really are. Don’t be a desperate Dan. If your wife is aware of you doing such things then keep her updated with the conversation. While it is understandable that you may need some time to vet the bull before showing your wife it doesn’t take a week to do so. If a bull isn’t seeing progress within 24hrs of chatting they are getting suspicious. If there isn’t some interest in meeting within 3 days then you’re probably starting to lose the real bulls who aren’t desperate. Note that meeting doesn’t have to mean playing. It could mean meeting for a drink at a public place with no obligation to go further. If couples think that they have had to chat a lot to new people online then they’ve never experienced being a bull. Being a bull usually means starting and carrying the conversation. Most real bulls start going silent reasonably soon because they’re over constant chatting to the time wasters.

Hotwives

Communicate with your husband about what you want and to what level. Most importantly, be honest with him AND YOURSELF. If you’re only doing it to stop him constantly asking then things aren’t going to end well and you’re only wasting a real bulls time.

Involve yourself. Yes I know it’s frustrating to deal with fakes and time wasters and easier to get the husband to look for you but with you outside of the loop until the last moment, things can easily go in a different direction or choices that differ to your own can be made.

Perfect is the enemy of good enough…. or… Don’t look for Mr. right, look for Mr. Right now. Far too many women over think the situation and will only accept the perfect guy and The perfect situation. Unfortunately that does not exist. Accepting 80-90% of what you want in a bull or situation will mean you will still have fun and you’ll probably find new interests by trying new things as well as long term bulls that were much better than the not perfect picture they shared.

In conclusion I must say that both sides (bulls and couples) have a steep hill to climb in finding people online. We all have to wade through the fakes and times wasters to find the diamonds in the rough. That said, we all can improve in the way we live this lifestyle so when you complain about the other side being hopeless, don’t forget to also look back into the mirror and work out how to improve yourself as well.

Cheers!