The internet has allowed the masses to connect with each other in various ways which has made finding others much easier. That said, the anonymity that the internet allows makes it easy for bad actors, fakes and flakes to waste people’s time on both sides which understandably annoys those of us who are genuine. As someone who has much experience in the kink scene and communicating/finding others online on both sides I feel it prudent to give some tips on how to advertise yourself, communicate with others and how to do a reasonable job of filtering out the fakes.

Bulls Posts and Profiles. A simple rule to start with. Unless you have an amazingly huge cock then no one is interested in you sharing it. I’m sorry to say but the vast majority of you don’t, otherwise you’d be in a major porn shoot. Men may be visual creatures but women aren’t nearly as much. Most of the time you posting a badly arranged pictures of your cock with a dirty toilet in the background will only ensure less interest. Definitely post pics but be more creative and have at least some class. You will get the interest similar to the level of effort you put in.

The way the world works means that generally the bull needs to start the conversation. That means making the first move. While you might go mainly off pictures for most women, it is how you conduct yourself during the initial online conversation that will greatly affect the possibility of actually meeting. Don’t underestimate the importance of the ability to have an educated conversation. Be clear and honest about what you want and refrain from being too pushy or going straight into bedroom talk. Experienced couples will be testing you on your ability to hold back and not be a horny Bogan. If your first message is “Yo, I wanna fuck you now!” You won’t get a reply. Be a big boy, learn to use proper words and mentally stimulate the wife to spark their interest.

Don’t share dick pics during the conversation unless asked to. Don’t ask for pics and wait for them to be freely shared. Most “bulls” are fakes and couples are waiting for you to be a pic collector or a dirty creep sharing dic pics so they can start ignoring you.

It’s ok to be the one to ask to meet but wait till you’ve had a resonable conversations, understand what each other wants and that there is a connection before trying to jump the gun. If you do, be classy. I can’t stress this enough, Reddit is full of douche bags. Stand out for once and don’t be one.

Couples Posts and Profiles Make sure your profile or post outlines at least the basics about your and what you are after. Know that males are visually based creatures so pictures will gain their attention the most. Just make sure that your pictures are genuine (not doctored) and real. They don’t need to have anyone’s face in it but just remember that classy pictures will attract classy people. Crass pictures will attract crass people. If the husband is making the profile or post on the wife’s behalf, make sure she has given consent on what you are posting. Trust is a key factor in kink and if you don’t have that then you won’t get far at all. Perhaps working on your relationship would be a better use of your time.

Bulls should be aware that the majority of profiles are being looked after by the husbands as most women can’t handle dealing with all the fake attention and time wasters. That doesn’t mean the couple isn’t serious but you need to have confidence the wife is consensual of it all and at the basic level just plain aware. It’s crazy how many “couple” posts the wife isn’t even aware of its existence.

Tips for everyone using Reddit. It is very easy to look on a profile and see how long they’ve been on Reddit, what their karma is like and read through their previous posts and comments. Beware a profile that is less than 6-12 months old with little karma. Beware a profile that has previous posts or comments that either don’t make sense or are crass or have onlyfans links. You can get a pretty good understanding what kind of human they are and what interests they actually have a quick search such as this.

A decent profile will have basic information about where they are and what they are after in the about section. A decent profile will have a verification picture post on their profile. It will have a real photo of the bull or couple (husband AND wife) with the profile name written on a piece of paper. It doesn’t have to have faces but will have the body(s) of the profile user(s) to prove they are real. If you don’t have a verification on your profile then make one.

When chatting to someone ask what they want out of the dynamic. Ask what their fantasies are. Ask how the experience makes them feel. Simple questions like that build a decent picture of what type of person they are and helps you to decide if there is compatibility there. Expect a chat between a couple and a bull to go on for at least a day or two. It’s very rare for a meet to happen after only 10 minutes of chat.

Conclusion. The internet is both a wonderful way to meet lots of potential partners and a frustrating minefield all at the same time. It’s a numbers game. If you know how to play the numbers to your advantage you’ll have a much higher chance of having a good time. Happy hunting.

Feel free to add any tips of your own in the comments below…