Hello, welcome to my TED Talk haha just kidding, but I guess a little about myself and then I'll explain what I mean by wholemate.

34 years old male Dom whose a digital nomad. I work remotely as a Software Architect and travel regularly between Austin, L.A., D.C. and based out of New Orleans at the moment hence why I listed so many locations ha. Distance to me isn't really a big deal especially if things are casual, but ultimately looking for a long term relationship and would want to settle down and live together.

I'm 6ft tall, black hair, brown eyes mixed race and I would say fairly attractive ha. Workout regularly, I watch what I put into my body and still fairly active outside of working out.

Extremely motivated and driven. I invest in real estate outside of my work and plan on retiring by 40 or only working by choice and because I enjoy it as opposed to have to work. Ideally I want to have the ability to spend more time focused on my family when that time comes. I don't want to just create financial freedom for myself, but I want to reach a point to be able to help those around me as well that's what I'd like my legacy to be.

In my downtime i like to get outdoors I go kayaking regularly, like going hiking through state parks or camping when the weather is good. I like traveling to music festivals and seeing live music and stand-up comedy. My two most recent festivals I went to were North Coast and Freaky Deeky both electronic music to give you a sense of some of the music I like. Honestly a big fan of all music minus country ha. I love traveling and sight seeing in general. I like to learn about other cultures, eat their food and get a different perspective on life. I'd say I am a true ambivert happy to be alone or a evening amongst close friends, but just as cool going out. Too many hobbies or interests to list. Overall I'm happy and content with my life, but I do believe relationships are what make life special. Hence why I figured I would post on here and see if by chance I come across my wholemate.

Here is my best approximation of what a wholemate looks like. I'm looking for a whole person. A woman who is happy, fulfilled and has a purpose for her life. She isn't caught up with what the Joneses have or the things which she's lacking. She knows that happiness is derived internally. She is mindful and aware of her internal state and does things to improve it like exercise, breath work, meditation, journaling etc.

As much as she is content, she's also self-motivated and has things she is working on or towards. A better career, being a better friend, spouse, daughter, mother, anything. She naturally is drawn toward growth and personal development and she strives to be better than she was yesterday. I understand though no one is perfect we all have flaws, trauma, shadow work to do, but I want to be with a woman who is on the path, actively working on it.

Now here is where the irony comes in as much as I want a woman secure in herself, I also want one who wants to be wholly taken and used. She wants me to come behind her in the kitchen lift her skirt up and take her from behind. A woman who enjoys the thrill of being bound, gagged and clamped on her nipples. Pounded, stimulated and edged over and over again torturingly until I give her the magic words "You may cum now". I could go on, but I think you catch the drift. A woman capable of that dichotomy is what I'm looking for and I don't think that they are mutually exclusive.

If this also seems like a dynamic you've been seeking send me a chat (not message) and introduce yourself and answer one of the questions below:

If you had to pick a mediocre superpower what would it be?

If you had to go back to a point in time in your life when would it be?

What's a hidden talent you have thar most people don't know about?

Thanks for reading my post and looking forward to your response