This is going to hurt to read, continue at your own peril.

I used to browse this sub and think, while I was reading the personal accounts of breakups and absolute devastation, that somehow, someway, my situation was different. Others were dealing with a different caliber of person, my ex wasn’t like that, I’m different because this is only temporary, my ex will realize eventually.

Sorry to say - we are all just dealing with people that are not compatible with us. For whatever reason. Doesn’t mean they are bad or that you are bad. Some of you survived abuse, gaslighting, or neglect (like me) and, yes, you were dealing with a piece of shit and are better off. Those that didn’t, your partner and you were just incompatible.

LDR breakup? Could’ve been saved with more effort by your ex. Poor communication? Therapy. Cheating? Ethical non-monogamy. Everything has a solution and your other person didn’t want to explore it.

At the very least, you are dealing with someone who is willing to put in less effort than you. Move along, and find someone better.

Look that in the face NOW. Save yourself some trouble down the line.

I am here for y’all.