So my ex (24m) broke up with me (21f) just less than three weeks ago. We were "seeing each other" three months then "official" another three. We'd been fighting during the week before (and by fighting I mean he'd completely ignored me for three days), I went over on the Friday, we talked and he said he needed to think. He came over on the Saturday and said he couldn't be in a relationship with me because I was getting upset over little things he couldn't change about himself.

The first week I was a wreck, constantly crying, lost 5kg from not eating, just wanted to sleep and do nothing the whole time, although when I did sleep I'd wake up thinking of him. WOW I THINK I JUST GOT CHILLI IN MY EYES... NOT AN EXCUSE FOR CRYING, I'M COOKING AND THIS ACTUALLY BURNS Anyway... So That first week I wasn't too bad with contacting him, just to ask about some stuff, and if we could keep things with other people out of view.

Then on the Saturday (one week) I went and had some drinks with his flatmates (who ensured me he wasn't home) and some other friends with plans of leaving before he got home. Unfortunately he arrived home while I was still there, I was ridiculously upset to see him smiley etc. It was a bad idea to go there, but still... So just after I left I texted him just asking how he could show no emotion and to let me know our relationship at least meant something. The next day I did some thinking and realized I needed closure, the whole break up was a massive shock to me and I wasn't really accepting it. So I tried calling, got answer machine and left a message, then sent him a massive explanation via fb chat of how I needed this, I just wanted to hear him say it was over properly. I got no response to this, not even a "Sorry I can't do that right now".

I emailed later in the day saying "Are you really just going to leave my hanging on what I asked you? If you can't/ won't meet up with me at least tell me, don't put me through more stress than you already have insertexname. All I'm asking is to meet briefly so that I can let go properly." No response. I spoke to a mutual friend and she said it was probably because he hadn't really had no contact. So I left it there..

For a week. I tried to do my own thing and let go (burning a letter), which helped a little, and I didn't contact him at all that week. I was feeling OK, but just kind of numb to the whole situation. This week however, when I've been lying in bed just feeling lonely, I couldn't help but call and then hang up in hopes of a response, as well as sending a text asking "Why are you doing this? You said you wouldn't cut me off" and when he was on Skype last night I tried to talk, but got nothing.

This afternoon I went past his office without warning and asked if we would talk. He said he was angry at me because I was calling at all hours etc and that wasn't helping him to get into the right space to talk to me. As I said to him, I can't handle being ignored, and it would have been so much easier if he'd just text asking if we could just have no contact, or that he couldn't meet up or whatever. I said it was hurting me more hearing nothing and did he want to do that to me? He said he didn't think he needed to say anything...

Basically. That whole thing would have been so much easier if he'd just texted initially or something saying "Sorry, I can't meet, can we just leave it for a while?" Or something... instead he ignored me completely, which left me with the "Why is he leaving me hanging?" mentality. Because, of course I don't want him to be feeling that way toward me, and now I know that's how it makes him feel I can find it easier to not call etc.

TL;DR: Broke up 3 weeks ago. Saw him today, he said he was angry and that's why ignoring me. Would have been easier do just get a text or something to ask for no contact, telling me how it made him feel, rather than completely cutting me off.