I have been no contact with my ex for over a month now. From the day we broke up, with acfeption of her birthday I texted her "happy birthday! I hope you are having an amazing day!" To which I got a simple thank you.

Silence after that. I have a mutual friend that offered to take my ex out to a restaurant that I had gotten her a gift card to as part of a larger gift that I never got. Yesterday my friend gave it to my ex along with the card I had gotten and written in. Nothing big, just a simple note: "happy birthday! Hope you still have some memories left from your 21st, either way go make some more with burritos!"

It was silly but I loved her and still do. I'd rather her have the card than it go in the trash.

When she received it she was confused at first or so I've been told. But when my friend explained that I had gotten it before we broke up (which is partly true, I ordered the gift card the day after we broke up late at night... but had the idea for a while) she said 'wow he was really planning ahead"

I'm conflicted because I know I cant hang my hat on things getting better but I can't shake the feeling that we will. I'm trying to move foward not on. Meaning "I'll be ok with whatever, I hope for this but it going to be ok if it doesnt happen." I dont know if it was a mistake or hurt my chances of reconciliation... btw this friend is now best friends with my ex and she thought it was sweet and that it would be ok for her to give her the whole card and gift card and not just treat her to a night out.

I dont know why this is bugging me so much. I didnt think about it all that much leading up to this happening but how it bothers me.