I’ve written about my situation relatively recently so won’t get into heaps of backstory, but my girlfriend recently broke up with me because she’s been unhappy with herself and feels she needs space to learn to love herself again. It’s never felt like a done deal, but it’s been a really emotional time.

Today, we planned to exchange our things before calling it quits for the next couple of months. I got to her place but she wouldn’t come out and see me, she said she wasn’t ready yet and said we could go out for a coffee in a few days when she feels more emotionally stable. I left her stuff at the door and went on my way, and we both said we loved each other (on the phone, and then text).

I personally don’t think the space is going to give her the happiness she is looking for (as she really needs therapy to sort some things out, like PTSD from a car accident or a toxic work environment). I really want to get back together and support her properly, but am worried that if I meet for coffee that it’ll be like she’s weening me off, and I really want her to miss me to increase my chances of getting back together sooner rather than later. What should I do?