My ex and I opened up our relationship this summer after I foolishly had a period of online infidelity a year and a half ago and proposed that as a solution in therapy. Unfortunately it backfired about as hard as it could have; she left me for someone she dated during our open period. Despite how good our past year felt together after therapy, she swears to me that she’s already done her mourning phase and is fine to move on. She says her new bf understands her emotionally than I ever did despite us living together for 6 years.

I’m now trapped in a constant feeling of regret, wishing I could go back and change 100 different things and undo my actions. I’m also confused about her current relationship, whether it could be just a rebound or possibly something more, everything just seems so fast.

I’m trying my best to stay no contact (today marks 30 days) but I’m curious if it’s worth ever reaching out, showing her my progress in therapy etc. I would give anything to have her back in my life, and while I’d love to express that to her, I don’t want to come off as needy or invade her space.

If she is rebounding, what are my options realistically if any? I’m sure this isn’t a “one glove fits all” scenario, it’s just hard to let go and I’m looking for hope I guess.