My ex has a lot of childhood trauma that has created many issues with how he handles his anger and contradicting morals.

I went to therapy after our first break up and it helped me process a lot of my emotions and grow.

When we got back together, he did no self reflecting and growing. He still blamed me for a lot of our previous issues.

I left him this time and sent him a long loving text suggesting him to seek therapy, self help books, podcasts, and to sit in his emotions instead of distracting himself through sex, drugs, work, alcohol, and partying. I even mentioned he may be an avoidant and sent him an article a week before about my attachment to that he never read. His text back was goodbye.