Hi all,

My ex (28M) and myself (26F) broke up. He broke up with me just about 5 days ago. We went to a wedding together about 2 days he broke up with me and it was wonderful and so romantic. The day before was also a good time. Then the night before, I was going through some stuff and I probably overwhelmed him with my insecurities which I have struggled with our whole relationship. Overall, he still likes me and was sad to end it, but my insecurities, him wanting to focus on his school and work, and he cannot commit to loving me (I told him I loved him on my birthday but he could not commit to this as he states due to my insecurities, and his current life status). He realized that I was more invested in the relationship than he was and that I put in a lot of effort into our relationship, and he could not do the same. He made me feel so "loved" and cared for although throughout our relationship and always wanted us to fight together. Then on a random Wednesday - because of the wedding possibly and my behavior on the Tuesday pushed him. When he was breaking up with me, I tried to say over and over again we should work it out but he said "I made up my mind". He told me I am not his top priority. Before I left him to go to my car, I said "Can we please try again?" and he said "I have made up my mind". We hugged for so long after, how could it have gotten to this point? I know this is the closure I need for me not to reach out and try to reconcile. I want to think I tried my best, and not focus on my flaws during the relationship.

I am so tempted to reach out to try to reconcile since he was so sad to breakup with me, so then why not try again? But I have to remember that he made that choice to end things. But it keeps nagging at me - but I am trying to accept it. He has to focus on himself and his goals, which is his #1 priority. I am struggling to accept it right now, as it keeps replaying in my mind that if we like and care for each other and got along so well during our relationship, why not try? Everything was so good legit a day ago and now it is all gone. I was in his arms a day ago, and now we don't even speak anymore. How do I accept this?