TL/DR at the bottom.

I just came out of a 2.5 year relationship. In the last 7 months we moved in together. She had rheumatoid arthritis so I built our appartement by myself. Everything, new floors, and custom furniture everywhere. All while I was studying and working crazy hours (think 70 ). I renovated the entire place while earning to money to do it and studying.

I tried to give her everything she wanted. Then right when I was close she broke up with me. Because apparently everything was about me. Her live revolved around me according to her. I had a horrible weekend where I was convinced I was a narcissist (her words), and decided to do better. I promised her I'd change, and I'd be better. She kept me at arms length but gave me hope.

In the following two weeks I finished everything in the appartement. And moved out because she wanted me to. She even kissed me at the mouth and said maybe we should go on a date. So I gave her space and told her she could keep everything in the appartment. Over 10.000 euros worth of stuff which is an awful lot for a struggling student. But I figured she needed it more than I did.

She strung me along for another 2 weeks and convinced me I was the problem. When we finally started talking about our feelings I shared mine. She ghosted me for 2 days, and then broke it off for good with me without even a final conversation for closure. Other than again saying that me needing closure was exactly like our relationship, everything was about me and I could never accept her feelings.

I feel used and discarded, I now have to start over at 28, living at my parents with only a computer and car to my name. When I met her I had my own appartment and everything she has now. I lost everything while I built it. I feel like I was only a tool for her to get what she wanted. And when I started wanting things back I got discarded.

She even kept our cat and didn't let me say goodbye to him :(

TL/DR partner took everything from me and ended it our relationship for it being only about me