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Letting go of someone with non existent communication skills.
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It all started when I was on omegle just before it was shut down, he was my last ever omegle chat. We started talking om snapchat and he started flirting instantly. The love bombing started and in 3 days he was telling me how he wants to marry me and wanted to call on first day of meeting. I tried to take thigs slow but he rushed everything and as fast as it began it also ended. We only dated for 3 weeks and he was always telling me how he wants this relationship to work out and how he's giving his 110% while it bearly felt like 10%. He also told me that I'm his first ever non toxic relationship and said that he has been hurt by miscommunications in past relationships, I never thought he will be my first toxic relationship and he's the one who has non existent communication skills. I admit I made few mistakes without even realising it while in the relationship but instead of coming to me to talk about it he talked to his friends about it and made one of them hate me but without this friend of his I would have never understood what's wrong. I texted that friend one day (he said it's okay at the time) to ask if we can we can do anything to support his mental health to what that friend told me that she thinks I haven't been a good partner and we should break up (he broke up with me after that because obviously that friend talked to him a out it) while I did everything I could to be a good partner, checking up on him, wanting to hang out, loving him with every flaw he had. While he was becoming more distant and preferred his friends over me. I think my reaction to this was normal human reaction, I felt that something is wrong and I became more clingy trying to hold onto him. I had no reasonable idea why he was doing that since he didn't tell me about it until it was too late. After that he became really cold and distant (he wanted to remain friends) leaving me on delivered for days when I wanted to check on if he's okay. The conversation was one sided so I tried to ask questions to start a conversation about something random (it didn't work). At some point I asked to have a closure talk where he still gave me hope of getting back together. I really believed that until the last moment. The talk ended up giving me more questions than answers. Weeks went by and few days ago he seemed to start warming up a bit, so we talked a bit where I learned that me asking those conversations starter questions were too much for him and "he was still talking more to me than his family or friends" what I doubt because our "talks" were only few lines and most of the times were left on delivered. So when he warmed up a bit I tried to get answers to my concerns to wich he said he has more important things to worry about than thinking about his feelings towards me. I finally got my answer. I felt devastated and broken all over again because I still hoped. I had no one to talk to even tho I really needed to, so in a moment of weakness I texted his other friend who was nice to me and actually tried to help me, I know that I shouldn't have done this but I couldn't help it since I felt completely alone. Today I got an angry message from him asking me why I'm bothering his friend and said that it's the final warning to not bother his friend, telling me I'm not giving him any space. I understand needing space and not talking to your friends every day but when the break up happened our dynamic was completely turned upside down, I was trying to build a new dynamic as friends. I understand you don't have to talk to your friends daily but it'll only work if a stable friendship is established what has not happened. I feel like some sort of an emotional bandaid what was torn off when it wasn't needed anymore and became to be on the way. It sucks so much because he was dragging me along for weeks instead of letting me go and just yesterday told me he wants me as a friend. I'm so tired of all of this and I've been realising that it's not worth it for weeks but I still loved him so it seems impossible to let go. He's far from the person I met and and it's obvious we can't be friends or lovers. I feel like if he keeps on like this he will never have a long lasting relationship but it's not my problem anymore. Non of it wasn't worth it, not the relationship not the cruel game that followed.

I'd love to hear your opinions because he has made me feel like the bad guy and like I was the problem while I know I tried my best and and he was only feeding me false hope from the very start. Feel free to tell your stories, I feel like it will help, thank you for your time.

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