So my ex and I broke up 4 months ago now and it has been a rollercoaster and a lot of work and selfcare. I have accepted the relationship is over and we are not getting back together and want to move on.

We dated for almost 4 years and I had ruled out the dating scene for good but here I am. Today I went out with my boys with the intention of meeting someone but each time the chance presented itself I froze and backed down. How do I regain the confidence or remove the anxiety. The issue is not my outer appearance as I am a pretty attractive guy ( told by other) but moreso an internal anxiety issue. Worse thing is I have stopped drinking as it was my go to during the breakup and gave me false confidence so now I have dating anxiety with a bit of social sober anxiety haha what a mess. Please help.