I’m saying this as I am almost 3 months post break up (I’m the dumpee) of someone I was in a relationship with for almost 3 years. He’s 32 I’m 28 so I felt ready to find my person and I thought he was it. We lived together, dad would text him about sports, everything.

He broke up with me after a whole weekend out for his brothers birthday. They were out partying Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and he broke up with me on Sunday.

Yes we had our issues but to me, I feel that couples can work through things like communication. Instead, he randomly broke it off right after I picked up breakfast tacos for him since he was hungover.

It was the absolute worst experience of my life. I felt discarded, I felt he turned into a person I didn’t even know. He used to show so much empathy, support, love, and if anything in the beginning I felt safer than I ever did in other relationships. I truly thought this was it.

However after 2.5 months, I’m recognizing I did SO much for him. He wanted to be single with his brother and his best friend, to see what else was out there. He threw away a woman who - in his words- inspired him to workout, get his finances together, learn how to cook… he truly used me for what he could get. Mind you, he made double what I made and made me go 50/50 while he spent all his money on shoes and clothes and watched me struggle to even shop for things I wanted.

It is NOT a reflection of how valuable you are. It’s completely a reflection of the fact that they have no idea how to maintain a long term relationship, how to not succumb to “the next shiny thing”, and the fact that they are users.

I love you and I’m sending all of the light love and healing to you all. 💛