Me and my ex? agreed to take a break a few days ago. The agreement was no dating anyone else and we can see if things have changed for them down the line. The soft limit for this is October. Until then we live together in our apartment with our child still. The reason for the breakup: 1) they say they didn't feel a spark. Personally I'm not sure if they never did or if they just feel that way because I have been so inattentive for so long. 2) they wanted more spontaneity and romance. I always would prefer staying home and being lazy (recently started therapy for depression) instead of going out.

Now they stated they've felt this way for a while, but the only time they told me was a few months ago, and since then we'd been doing more and I'd been making extra effort. They seemed perfectly fine even when I'd ask them, so I didn't realize they were so lonely until it was too late.

While talking during the break discussion, they told me all of this and I finally realized what they wanted in a relationship and how it affected them. I know it's absurd but I just didn't know and now that I do, they don't want to try counseling or anything right now.

Personally, I feel we can fix things with better communication and improving ourselves. During the talk I was definitely desperate in trying not to have it but we agreed on a break and I accepted it willingly, so long as we don't date anyone else.

Now what do I do? We talk pretty normally at home as we used to but without the kisses and nicknames, just joking and stuff. We text normally as well but less frequently as I'm actively not spamming them and only responding when they message me. I'm still in therapy and now that I see the issues I think I could be a better partner but how do I prove that?