I am going to make this as short as possible but I have waited over a month to post about this. I’ve just had so many thoughts in my head about this entire break up and need to vent and get some advice or thoughts from other people.

My (28F) ex boyfriend (32m) and I met in 2020 right when the pandemic started. When he met me, he didn’t even have a credit card he wasn’t super aware of personal finance and investing (something im into and taught him) I cooked for him, taught him how to cook too, I was there for him when he moved to our city and had literally nothing and spent all of his savings to move here. Down to like he had a blow up bed for a while and no furniture- everything I didn’t mind at all because I don’t value materialistic things and I knew he moved here for a good paying job.

Anyway, fast forward we dated for just under 3 years. During this time, he ended up getting promotions and was making double my salary. Keep in mind, we split rent 50/50 which I did not think was fair, but alas.

He ended up getting really into shoes and considers himself a sneaker head now, and has like over 30 pairs. He also would buy new clothes every single week online shopping. Owns like 9 colognes. He used to (still does) get complimented so much about his style once he made more money, so he decided he wanted to actually do photoshoots with a real photographer and try to make something of it. (Cringe)

I tried to be supportive but after a while I was resentful. He became an entirely different person in the end from who I met, and it breaks my heart. He just became so obsessed with himself and his image. He even started going out with his single friends ALOT toward the end of our relationship and they would go to this “members only” type lounge/bar. And he would never invite me. In the beginning, he always invited me out.

He broke up with me after his brother’s birthday weekend- they went out each night and the breakup was out of the blue.

We did have communication issues and nothing was perfect in our relationship just like anyone else’s, but why would he just throw away the person who loved him and supported him through everything? He would even tell me that in the beginning he was so embarrassed by the fact that he barely had anything in his apartment but that he loved that I didn’t judge him for it. But then he turns around and screws over that exact woman who unconditionally loved him and supported him- all so he can be single, “upgrade”, and keep obsessively taking pictures of himself. Also please keep in mind I am an attractive woman and have had many men tell me that but I am not an Instagram influencer by any means.

Anyway, this feeling sucks and I can’t get past the fact that he has changed so, so much ever since he started making more money. I feel used for everything I did for him and taught him.

Edit: spelling