I broke up with my bf of 8 months almost 2 weeks ago now. I love him so very much but he stopped putting effort in and while I know it was due to struggling mental health, there was nothing i could do and having my own problems that I wanted to rely on him for created more stress for him. I would’ve ended the world for him but putting in 100% of the effort instead of even just 99% to 1% was too much. So I put myself first for once in my life.

Post breakup, over the last few days, we tried to do the stuff exchange. I also wanted to bring up talking in person for closure. He wanted it over text, I wanted in person, because I struggle to communicate over text. This started a very long argument. It shifted to trying to schedule a time and he got mad when I didn’t want to do it after he got off work at 11 ish, and when I asked for him to do it on his day off, he flipped. (I am a student and have a rough schedule too, it’s not just his schedule we are working around) he said some really nasty things the last 48 hours and I am so hurt. I was just beginning to move forward some.

At this point, I feel so hurt and depressed post relationship that nothing sounds interesting. My therapist wants me to focus on myself and take self care time, but we weren’t able to get too into it as we were near the time limit of the session. I need some ideas. Nothing I’ve been using pre-argument is interesting to me and I’m low on energy. Physical self care and emotional self care, any tips or recommendations for either really would help so much