28M here. Last year my boyfriend, 34M, and I both entered into a depressive phase in our relationship. We had just moved in together a few months earlier and our lifestyles clashed. He stopped trying to turn our shared living space into a home and stopped enjoying life with me altogether. I myself stopped enjoying seeing him when I got home from work because he wasn’t ever excited to see me, and we both just existed with each other for six months.

Two weeks before the breakup, he told me he was depressed. I brought up the idea of counseling or seeing a professional to help us communicate better. He shrugged it off. I advocated for this multiple times to show I’m willing to fight for our relationship.

When he broke up with me, he told me he fell out of love with me and never took the idea of counseling seriously. This broke me. In hindsight, I believe I was only a week or so from breaking up with him if he hadn’t done it first.

We broke the lease a month later and went our separate ways.

I’ve gone through the stages of grief of the breakup in the last year and I see my own therapist now for myself.

I do feel resentment towards him for not even giving counseling a try, but is it right for me to?