One of my favorite ways to describe myself is as a chaos kitten or sex gremlin. My relationships, once I feel safe and connected with someone, are filled with fun and playfulness. The line between being needy and needing plenty of independence is a tricky one. A cat lover would enjoy my company most. 😝

I do get serious when it comes to my needs. Communication, honesty, thoughtfulness, consent, and openness are must-haves. I can’t be with someone I can’t trust.

What I’m looking for is more difficult. Relationship-wise I consider myself most comfortable in a well-communicated space between open and strictly monogamous. A flexible Monogamish, if you will. I crave someone who can best me. Someone with a creative banter and approach to dominance. Ideally a brat wrangler into some degree of exhibitionism and who is either involved in or interested in the lifestyle rather than online role playing.

Kinks are complicated because I find they tend to be pretty niche, but at the same time if I announce them interested men forget I’m a person first. I cherish my agency and free will. I will say they include bratting, free use, DDLG and primal. I prefer using 'Sir' and 'Daddy' as honorifics. If I'm feeling especially affectionate and needy Daddy is the usual go-to.

Having a meat shield for attending parties and events is also really important to me. Some of my most significant values are community and acts of service, and I need someone who will mirror that. Especially someone who is genuinely kind and nurturing.

My love language, if you’re interested, is probably quality time. The others are all pretty equal. I enjoy them, but nothing makes me feel as loved as someone taking time out of their day to spend it with me.

If you take stock in it - I’m a Gemini and INFP.

My favorite places are outside (especially picnics, camping, and hot springs), theaters, and museums.

Preferences would be local or online to start but can move offline. I’m not attracted to younger men.