Yeah, I know, it's probably a dumb question in spirit. But I thought I'd ask.

Tamer (30F) and me (31M) are still new to the dynamic and the games. My main focus right know is keeping it all alive because she's much more vanilla than me. I require kink, she does not so much.

But we've made tremendous progress and she confessed liking that new dynamic too.

Anyway, right now I've managed to brat, be punished hard and put to place often enough. Next weeks are to prove wether this can hold over time.

But the question at point is... should I introduce the aftercare routine to it ? I've never had it, so I don't feel like I'm missing something I should have. I get beaten and degraded, and I love it. Then we leave it at that and resume normal couple life.

But should I ask for aftercare ? Do you reckon it's core dynamic, something that adds a lot to it, or would it be "too much" to lay on a fairly new dynamic ? Or just useless if I don't naturally feel a need to it ?

Please give your honest opinion !

Love,
E.