V Appreciate you reading!! Some Context: I’m 6months approx into dating my girlfriend. On Fetlife she identifies as a Goddess/Mistress/Domme/Owner. Her updated bio. Previously she mentioned being a switch.

We didn’t start dating for a while after first meeting (in-person, at a social “munch”) for various reasons.

When we started connecting and txting I made it clear I was more interested in a small part of her online bio where she mentioned being a switch, and only submissive for a rare special person (I’m paraphrasing). So it was ambiguous and clearly a part / facet of her personality she rarely shares. And she wants to be treated as a Princess.

I explained it would be an honour to earn her submission. I think that was the context from where the relationship blossomed. Also letting things evolve organically and not being an intense dom.

Xmas situation:

My girlfriend never got back to me when I asked her when is good for her for us to celebrate Xmas together.😒😤

On 12th Dec over video chat I said I want us to celebrate Xmas together. I said you’re prob spending Xmas day with your sisters/fam and can we (she/i) spend Xmas Eve together?

She replied she prob has to visit earlier on Xmas Eve, to help with all the food prep. It might be a lot of people, possible cousins coming. She wasn’t sure.

I said I’d prefer not to celebrate Xmas several days out on a random day with you, but it is what it is. Also, I’m not trying to invite myself to your fam thing but I’m good helping with food prep :)

She was silent, thinking. (She’s also undiagnosed ASD possibly and adhd- just diagnosed). I’m “high functioning adhd” fwiw.

I said, are you embarrassed by me? She said no. Just overwhelming experience for the amount of people and meal prep. I said I understand. Think on it, chat with your sister (who’s hosting, in Oshawa) and let me know. No pressure.

On Sunday I sent a voice note (WhatsApp) saying I don’t want her to feel pressure and any extra energy drain with socializing, and food prep to then need extra energy for me. Also I’d prefer a more intimate Xmas just us. Food for thought.

No reply, no emoji reaction to the vn.

Mon 23rd I sent a txt giving her xmas dinner/lunch date options for this sat 28th, Fri 27 or thur 26. My preference being sat.

Xmas eve still no response. I txt her only: 😒.

She replies Xmas day/y’day:

“Heyy I can do Saturday or Sunday for diner. Sorry for the delay, I haven’t been myself this week and had to muster the energy to get out of bed”

When we had the initial Xmas dinner chat (thurs 12th) she mentioned being depressed. I realise being neurodivergent she has extra mood swings, and depression. Also is an introvert.

I appreciate she’s gone thro something but it’s also disrespectful to not give a reply.

See screenshot for what I replied.

Experienced brat tamers: wondering what consequence I should do?

THANK YOU SO MUCH for your time/energy reading responses!!!

-Pleasure Dom (DD) whose always learning