Hello everyone! I’m a 21 student in Boston, I’m writing this post to Seek advice and possible friends.

I’m a really normal guy, smart and passionate about my work and study. I’m really working hard on building myself and future, but I’m finding a problem where I’m missing some emotional and spiritual stability that is distracting me. My problem is my work/study is taking majority of my time, so I’m unable to put that much effort into my social life . Moreover, due to some problems I haven’t seen my family in years and I reached a point where I really need a source of emotional support that I’m unable to find. This has been going on for a couple of years. I’ve never been in any kind of relationship, it just never happened. I sometimes feel really overwhelmed and in need to hug someone and have some intimacy.

I’m writing here because I never had anyone like a big brother, etc.. to ask and I wanted you to try here. I wanna discuss some stuff and see what you think:

• because of some circumstances I had to face I kinda feel more mature than other people my age around me and the things i can about are different. I tried most dating apps, and i had no successes. I really want to be with a nice person who is a bit mature and this is impossible to find on a dating app. i think also a really a big reason of failing on dating apps is that I’m not showing myself as the frat college boy, and I’m not that guy and don’t wanna be. I thought a possible this is to try to be with someone a bit older but I don’t know how possible is that and how to find it.

• what can i do, given my very limited time, to seek the mental and emotional stability in my life in order to be more productive and happier in general? I’m working really hard on myself, I work out often and swim, I love music and cooking, I never drunk and I don’t smoke. I’m trying to fill my time with good things but I’m always feeling that I need this belonging feeling and emotional stability.

This is a very short ideas about me, I am much more than this I promise. But I am a little bit lost and want some ideas. I’m also happy to chat and get to know what you think.