((My apologies if any of this sounds thin-privileged. If you're gentle about pointing it out I'll fix it)).

Due to a confluence of events I am extremely stressed. One of the things that happens when I'm stressed is that I get nauseous. All. The. Time. Which means that I don't eat as much as I should and so am now too-thin. It's not good. Yet many people who come by to visit or to help (and since there is literally a small army of people helping out, we think between 40-60 people helping cope) comment that I have lost weight and that I look better! It's as though we have lost the words to comment on anything other than thinner=better and thinner=always-a-good-thing. But it isn't a good thing. And I wish that we had the words to say that.

I also never know what to say. "Umm... thanks... but it's from not eating for a month?"