I'm just sick of it. They will never see me as a person. I am always a woman, and therefore a sexual target, before anything else about me is important. I'm writing this because I was going to hang out with a big group of them for some drinks after work - a group of men who are friends with other women on site and I thought were safe. I was literally getting ready and it just didn't feel right, I felt leery and weird and so I made an excuse and didn't go and later one of them sent me an awful text asking what he'd have to do to get in my bed. I can't even complain about it because everyone thinks it's a compliment to be treated this way but it isn't, it's so gross and dehumanising. I just want to do my job and have friends but you can't be fucking nice to these people because they just think of me as a wet hole and when I'm kind they think I'll let them smash.

Now I get to deal with feeling embarrassed and awkward around this person, his friends making jokes, for something I didn't start and never wanted.

JuSt gO tO hR??? No. What would happen if I did? They would reprimand him, I would feel worse and more awkward, and then in everyone's eyes I'd be a bitch because he was drunk and it's a "compliment" and I didn't have to ruin his career over a drunk text.

I am so lonely on site. I can only really be friends with the few women that are here. The men always do this to me. Even when I'm wearing illl fitting work clothes, no makeup, hair a mess, covered in dirt and grease.

I don't want advice, I know how to handle this and that it will suck for a bit and go back to normal, I just want to complain to other women who understand how disgusting and sad I feel.