I posted a similar question in another sub at one point but I have the sleeve I want to modify narrowed down to one, so now I need your help or opinion. My wife and I started our sleeve journey identical to most of the stories I read on these subreddits. Long story short, it's becoming evident to both of us she loves being filled and she's even starting to admit it regularly. Which is so hot.

The problem is the feel. We have 2 sleeves from SE with their triple density that she loves the feeling of but everything they make with that is way too large. The Mailman 7 that we have is her absolutely favorite because she can take the whole thing as hard as she wants. What is the best way to order this sleeve particularly and have it feel on the outside like the super soft triple density sleeves. Or is this even what I'm after. I think for her it's the softness and the squishy feel that makes it not feel like plastic to her so my thought was to order one with a shore adjustment. What are your thoughts?