So.... I just have to post this somewhere, where, I hope, people will understand On Friday evening, I got a message, from my mum, informing not asking me, that herself and my sister ( 3 years younger than me ) would be coming to clean my apartment on Saturday, this was with not even 24 hrs notice. I asked them could they not wait as there was stuff everywhere, my mum said no. So I spent all night trying to make the apartment as clean as I could, knowing full well it didn't matter what I did.... Well before they even came, my mum was complaining as they always do, about the cat, could I not put her in her carrier, so they could clean my bedroom and she'd be out of the way? Then when they got here, after me insisting they couldn't go in the bedroom, which they were not happy about at all, it was all, there's cat hair everywhere, could you not put her outside on the balcony to use the litterbox? My couch, she did rip when I got her first, obviously I know that's not great, but she hasn't done anything like it since, and if I don't care, they shouldn't either Eventually then, it was, I'm ungrateful, why can't I just say thnks? My attitude is disgusting.... and on and on.... I should have mentioned before now, I'm in my mid-30s, and this is not my first time living on my own They left soon after that, and I did say that all they did was criticise, the whole thing was just awful..... I know now, they are waiting for me to say sorry for not falling at their feet, and that I'm grateful for the massive invasion of privacy, but I just don't feel I should apologise? Also, my mum at one stage, went in my utility room, where my washing machine is, and without asking, put washing in, which I didn't want her to do, and also, put a load of stuff in a bag to be washed, which again, I didn't want her to do, and then of course, I'm having to pay for a launderette wash, that I didn't even want done? curious to get other people's thoughts on this.... tldr, my mum and sister came to my apartment even though I didn't want them to, and did a lot of things I didn't want them to do, and constantly belittled me complained about my cat, now want me to apologise.... Thanks to anyone who's made it this far