Things to consider as a consenting victim:
Ask the legal question, is there any legal comeback if a blackmailer crosses a red line?
What are the laws in the local area?
Where is the blackmailer based?
Are there extradition agreements between both countries?
What are the legal ramifications for "YOU" if you went down the legal route and they start investigating you?
Is the blackmailer behind a VPN, could they be found?
Consider limiting the leverage.
Consider limiting material with no personal data or face photo.
Consider limiting material with no personal details.
Are you sure you want to give your details? Do you accept the risk?
Is this Blackmailer a scammer?
Is there any history in their profile?
Is the image too professional as if someone else took the photo or too sexy as if it was fake?
Do they show any interest or knowledge of BDSM?
Do they just reply with one line?
Do they have a Fetlife account?
Are they members of "Findom" related groups only?
Do they have a detailed description in their profile?
Are they willing to have a detailed conversation?
Do they want a photo of you upfront without any detailed conversation?
If it is a catfish, it is likely a catfish.
Discuss safety and if they can be trusted
What is the safeword, what does it mean for example stop play or end the agreement?
What are the exit terms? Just a safeword? Money? Exit task? Or risk of destroying your life (Is that what you want?)
How do you feel about exposure? Willing to do everything to avoid it? Is there a limitation to exposure?
What about leverage? Is there a limitation to the leverage? Maybe they can threaten and make you believe they could but not use the questioned leverage?
What are the known hard limits?
Are there things in life you want to protect no matter what, such as your job, reputation, family and friends?
Are you expecting or the desire to suffer? Is it what you Blackmaier want? Are you really sure?
Are you willing to take responsibility for the outcome?
What are both of your expectations?
Are you really ready to have your life controlled?
Finanancial questions if Blackmailers female\*
Let's face it, MOST women do it for the money or to seek financial control, but here are some questions to ask:
Is it just money to the blackmailer or are they interested mainly in the kink?
Are they seeking a one-off payment, or is this the only payment?
Do you find them blackmailing you for money as a blank cheque or is there a limit?
Are you fine being blackmailed or paying a maximum agreed amount each month?
If not to the above to paying out of your current earnings and saving, would you be OK with:
Being bribed to give money (Not blackmail, they may refuse to talk to you if you do)
Are you fine with being shared out for money?
Are you fine with them taking advantage of your skills?
Are you fine with them getting a share of the income from decisions they make especially if there is a financial benefit such as a new job?
Concerned they are catfish or still don't trust them?
Ask them for a voice chat.
Verify each other?
Have a detailed conversation?
Willing to have a 1-2-1 video/cam chat to break the ice
What are their desires?
What are their limits?
What are their expectations?
No information, not satisfied, then maybe walk.
Still not able to hand over information, nerves taking over?
Play dice games
Leave breadcrumbs trail
Talk, accidentally leave information that leads to your real identity.
Be honest with them
Still scared.
Ask for a safeword, at least at the start to build trust
Make sure there are strict limits
Put strict boundaries of things you do not want to happen
Ask for the unloaded gun option or they make you think they will but they never will
Finally, take responsibility for ANY outcome
Understand you are asking someone to blackmail you, take responsibility for what happens
Understand you are giving personal information to a complete stranger, so take responsibility for whatever happens
Promises of safewords and limits are just that, "Promises", there may be little legal ramifications for them not keeping their promises
You are on your own, others in the forums/chat room can't help you.
It is just you and the blackmailer. Any questions of morals are the morals of the Blackmailer. The morals of others or even yours become irrelevant when your Blackmailer has the virtual gun to your head.
You always have a choice, do what is asked or walk.
Ask your self what the worst can happen.
If something happens to your job, then you can find another
If something happens to your relationship, then you can eventually find another
If something happens to your reputation, then there is nothing stopping you from moving and starting again.
Remember, there is a natural limit to what a blackmailer can ask you to do based on the limited leverage one has. It is for you to manage the risks involved and have a backup plan.
It is about the blackmailer's desires
Keep in mind a Blackmailer is blackmailing you for a reason. Ask yourself what are those reasons.
Remember the effort the Blackmailer will put into this. Are they simply letting you go if they spent months into the planning or winning your trust?
Remember, you and your life may become a "Toy" for them, expect things may happen "YOU WILL NOT LIKE"
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If you want this, sometimes you need to accept the risk, have faith and just let go, it is a price to experience this fantasy. It may be hell or you may end up enjoying it but it is down to the Blackmailer. At least you can look back I said you have experienced it.
But take everything that I have said on board and accept the risk and responsibility for the outcome.

You are on your own.