I'll be upfront in saying that, yes, I am throwing a sort of pity party for myself. Also: it does not involve anyone on this site, so no worries about that.

I contacted a domme today to do a blackmail roleplay. We laid out boundaries, created a safeword, and I elected to provide them with a link to one of my social media sites. We got into playing--which was mostly me sending boring, not-very-sexy photos and videos to the domme. At a certain point, I used my safeword and chose to back out. That's when things spiraled downward.

The domme began to say she (or he, since this was probably a scammer) did not believe me. Setting aside that I was telling the truth, this is obviously a violation of my boundaries and the safeword I used. I told the person that they did not have consent to send out my photographs, and they replied that my attitude towards them was a violation of their consent.

I offered to give them money, they agreed and I sent it. Of course, then the rules changed again and I was taking too long. I realized that if I sent them any more it would never be enough, so I stopped. Moments later, a group message was sent to all of my IG followers about the chat with my nude photos and videos attached.

I have filed a report online with the FBI, I've reached out to the company with the transaction info, and I plan on notifying local authorities during regular business hours. I was able to get one person to report it and it looks like it might have been enough to stop the message from spreading. But it's still a shitty situation to be in--this experience has pretty much ruined my kink and may stop me from having much fun online anymore.

I know this probably isn't in the spirit of the subreddit, but I just wanted to mention it as a warning to others. It's tough and you may not always be able to verify the people you chat with fully, but do your best. Dommes, please do go out of your way to verify yourself and prospective partners--it may not seem sexy to you but it's one of the healthiest ways you can use your power to build trust.

Thanks for reading to the end.