So, here's my story. I'm 35, and l've never been intimate with a woman, though I do desire to be with one. At the same time, I also feel like I may be bisexual. I'm honestly not sure if it's nature or nurture, or if it's partly because I grew up as a pastor's kid, which made things more complicated. I also grew up overweight and didn't really attract attention from either side until I lost nearly 100 pounds in my late 20s, entering my 30s. That's when I moved from the South to New York, and it's here that I first started exploring my bisexuality. I was actually a virgin until I was 30, and my first intimate experiences were with men. Now, I'm interested in dating women as well, but I'm not sure how to navigate this. Should I tell women that l've been with men? Should I keep it a secret? New York is big, but it's also small, and I don't want to be categorized as DL (down-low).

Honestly, I feel like l'm just a late bloomer. Some people experiment with the same sex in college or even earlier, but for me, it happened much later in life. I guess I'm just looking for some advice. What are your thoughts? Should I be upfront with women about my past? Should I include this on my dating profile, or should I just keep it private? This might have just been a phase, but since l've explored later in life I feel many may see it as a permanent lifestyle. I'd really appreciate any feedback, especially from bros who identify as bi or who are in a similar situation. Thanks for your help.