I've been thinking about this lately and many times. It's often been brought as a concern for Black LGBTQ reddit spaces lacking growth of users.

As much as it is a valid concern, I think many people aren't ready and serious to confront its root causes.

Are we accepting towards those with views and experiences the polar opposite from the general Black gay men?

How do we respond to those voicing their aversion to other Black gay men for whatever reason?

How do we treat those attracted to White, Asian, and Mestizo/Amerindian men?

From my observation, it's been met with hostility, vitriol, and nastiness. It's disingenuous and awful to pretend this may not play into [potentially] attracting more Black users/subscribers to this space.

I don't think it's not reasonable for someone who feels unwelcome and antagonized to leave this space and venture elsewhere. It's downright ridiculous and harmful to remain somewhere toxic simply because of "community".

The average Black LGBTQ might be oblivious to specific virtual spaces. Likewise, they are lost, confused, and isolated. They are concerned with escaping homophobic environments by finding refuge in porn, hookups, [casual] dating with anyone. Let's not forget that they may live in places with a low/scattered Black population, let alone a Black LGBTQ. Even if they are in majority Black spaces, they don't owe explanations to anyone about not choosing their own race.

Should they only limit themselves to Black partners or wait a lifetime to find one?

Touching on the part of not relating to other Black [LGBTQ], why is this not allowed to voice?

I hate the defensiveness, stifling, fakery, and shadiness about the responses here. It's as if people voicing that are denied their lived experiences. They are met with shaming language: "coon this", "coon that"; personal attacks: "you're a self-hater", "White worshipper"...

I'll say this unapologetically [and I mentioned this before], Black gay men practice White Supremacy [the same way as other races but subtly] against each other. In my experiences, Black gay men are size queens and vocal about it, just like other races. Also, Black gay men expect you to play to the racist [porn] tropes, if you want to get laid and considered for a date. Otherwise, forget about it.

I feel hurt and disappointed that we will never have a [large] subreddit willing to accept and listen to the voices [with opposing viewpoints] of other Black LGBTQ, which is necessary to connect, build friendship, and/or date each other.

I'm saddened to see a fresh generation of Black gay men [full of energy, sweet, cute] misled by the White dominant media about "post-racialism", becoming crushed by the racial biases in the dating world. Then, they vent their dating/hookup frustrations online, only to be met with racist bigots denying and downplaying/"deracializing" their experiences on one side; the other [Black] side throws at them personal attacks and shaming language.

Am I wrong in my assessment?