I'm a bi guy still in the "DL" phase of exploring his sexuality. I'm looking to continue explore my sexuality safely while I become more comfortable with who I am. I had a FWB last year and it was great (did some basic exploratory stuff, but there's more I want to do), but sadly that's over.

I want to find safe, sane and respectful guys to take my time with, but I'm finding male/male hookup culture is really fast and aggressive. I'm not necessarily looking for a romantic connection, but trust is very important to me

I don't think Grindr is the scene I'm looking for. I've been posting on Doublelist, but a lot of the responses I get are terrible, like they didn't even read my post. Is there anything else I should be trying? Any other sites?

I'm in a big city on the West Coast of the US, I feel like this shouldn't be this hard...