I’m (53m) bi and recently divorced from a woman. I was dating a woman after the wife left during our separation ( this state requires a year separation before granting a divorce). I dated her for 10 months and broke it off because I got the vibe that she wanted much more from me than I could offer her at the time. I was feeling a little pressured even tho I know she didn’t mean to put that on me. We split in March of last year. In June she came over to get a few things of hers I found while getting my house ready to sell. Needless to say, sex has never been an issue for us. We both love being with each other. So, we had a farewell trist. I say all that to illustrate that I haven’t been putting myself out there. However, since admitting I’m bi to myself and a few friends, I’ve been inundated with guys wanting to hookup.

Well, tonight, I did. I was given head by a guy which hasn’t happened in well over 10 years. He was very sweet and accommodating. I know you all probably don’t even care or want to know, but since I’m still not officially out, I had to tell somebody. It felt great to allow myself to feel good without feeling so guilty. I used to beat myself up every time I had a sexual encounter with a guy. I’d spend weeks in shame and guilt. I came home tonight with none of that.

I credit the support from this group for my acceptance of my sexuality. Even just reading posts you all put up has really helped to know I’m not the only one to go through what I’m going through. Funny thing is, I had a friend tell me that another friend who’s gay said he’s known for years that I am bi. Odd how some people recognize that sort of thing long before it’s made known. Guess his gaydar works! Or is it “bi-dar”? Either way, I’m starting to really feel free.

Thanks to all you fellow freaks who encourage the rest of us to be our authentic selves.

Much love💗