I’m 33 (m) and after years of questioning and suppressing - I have accepted that I am bisexual!!!!!

It feels so good to say it in this community! I have been lurking and reading other people’s similar experiences, and it’s nice to know that other guys my age are also having these realizations later in life. Therapy was a huge help for me in coming to terms with my sexuality. I realized that the signs were there my whole life but growing up in a conservative state and in catholic school, didn’t allow me to explore that side of myself, so I tried to push that side away as much as I could. It’s more confusing for me because I have never felt equal attraction to men and women, Ive always been more attracted to women and wanted relationships with them, but I always have found certain guys and guys bodies hot. cough cough, Austin Butler, cough cough Finding Robin Ochs definition of bisexuality allowed something to click inside my brain.

I now understand more of the complicated fluidity of sexuality and the bi-cycle and it really just makes so much sense with my past and present.

Now the fun part, I have been married to my amazing wife for 2 years but we have known each other for the last 9 years. She is an amazing partner, empathetic, kind, and a great listener. I know deep down that the conversation will go okay to good. The permanence of coming out to her is what scares me because I sometimes feel that imposter syndrome of being bisexual. Bisexuality can feel so close at times but so far away at others. I want to maintain our marriage monogamously, but I certainly want to be able to talk openly and spice up our sex life with things that can help me connect with my bisexual self.

I just wanted to share my story to this point. I hope to update you all soon with the good news of successful coming out to my wife. Any advice or kind words would be sooo appreciated!! Love you all and thanks for coming to my Ted talk! ❤️