Morning everyone. Since opening up to my wife and allowing myself to think about my desires more, I have realized that my desires for the position in an encounter differ massively between men and women.

With women I have usually played the dominant role, apart from a few experimental femdom experiences with the wife - which she wasn’t a fan of so didn’t pursue further.

However I have discovered with men that I have no interest in being dominant/top at all. My desires lie purely in submission and bottoming. Strange part is I don’t like idea of kissing/cuddling a man but would gladly give head or bottom for a man. Also haven’t identified what my “type” of guy is yet and don’t feel attraction to guys bodies in general, just what’s in their pants.

Surely I’m not the only one. How do you your desires and preferences change between genders?