So, any of you that have followed my posts for the past couple of months know that my friend and sex partner has gone through a really horrible divorce after his ex wife caught him having sex with his neighbor. It was a humiliating experience for him.

Yesterday evening I was detailing my motorcycle when my friend came by and we talked about our bikes for a bit but I could see he there was something wrong with him. He wasn't his normal easy going funny guy and while we talked it was clear to me he was upset about something so I asked him if there was something wrong.

I know he still has feelings for his ex even though she humilated him during the divorce and he told me he is considering talking to her again about reconciliation. I encouraged him to give it a try, I know you still have feelings for your ex. He told me that if she would consider getting back together it would mean he and I wouldn't be able to see each other because the promise to his ex would be, no more sex with men.

I explained to him that I understood and if that's what he wanted, he should try to talk to his ex and I shouldn't be a factor. I asked him if he wanted to talk to my wife and her girlfriend because it would mean the end of our little group and they may have more insight and advice. After talking to the ladies, they agreed with me, we should not be a factor in his decision, he is more than a sex partner, he is our friend and we'd rather see him happy than unhappy just so he could could be our partner in sex.

I admit, I would really...really miss sex with him but more than that I would miss the friendship and a riding partner. The question is, what would you have told him? I'm comfortable with our advice to him and we, my wife her girlfriend and I fully support him. Would I look for another guy to have sex with? Probably not. I have lived my fantasy more than I ever imagined but I'd rather see him happy. My guess is, his ex won't go for reconciliation and after that I don't know what will happen.