My parents and my nephew , ( the people who I am closest to in my life right now) are the only ones who know about me. I'm not out at work. I prefer men, deeply. My parents already say they don't want to meet any man I date and my nephew doesn't either I don't think.

I'm not that close to anyone else in my family and rarely seem them except for funerals. I just wonder if I find a man to be with , would I have to tell everybody including co-workers and any future friends I make that he is my boyfriend? I'm not prepared for that. That is an odd thing to say because when I was younger, I lived a gay lifestyle (man I hate saying gay lifestyle but it is what it is).

I'm not afraid to be seen in public with gay men but telling the world that I would have a boyfriend is not something I want but at the same time I don't want someone to feel like they are my dirty little secret either.

I just don't know how to explain all this to any gay guy I date.