39m USA here.

Since about 14 I had sexual attraction to men...mainly their dicks, never found men attractive. Soon after I found pornography I would look at it for the woman and picture myself as the man in the photo or video, then slowly realized I also want to picture myself as the woman and being on the receiving end of pentration and blowjobs.

I eventually also ventured into gay porn as well as trans porn and all was good there, enjoyed it all but the gay and trans videos I'm a bit more picky with.

So basically I'm like so many other bi guys where we aren't attracted to and don't want relationships with men but want sex with them. And we want relationships and sex with women.

I finally came out to her just in 2023 and admitted to her and myself that I was bi and I didn't want to be ashamed of admitting it or hide it from myaelf or her that, I like both and who cares.

A few days pass and I tell her that I'm thinking of coming out to my family and possibly change some sexual preference things on social media to reflect myself better.

She was pretty concerned with it and wasn't too supportive of that idea. I was a little offended by it and was a little disappointed that she wouldn't want me to tell my family and friends about who I ACTUALLY am and be open with it.

So I held off on that idea for a bit and got to thinking..."I don't want relationships with men...just sex" so why is it important to tell friends and family that I want to have sex with men & women. It's not really anybodies business who I want to have sex with.

So I decided against it because of that...so i guess I'm asking if this a shitty thing for her to do? Also I'm kinda high so I'm a little rambling and talking about this is like such a weight off my chest since I don't have many people to talk to about it.

TL;Dr bi male, engaged to a woman, who just wants sex with men, no relationships. Does it make sense that my friends and family don't need to know what people I like to have sex with so there is no real reason to come out or is that just an excuse I'm coming up with because I am scared people will look at my differently?