Hi! I’ve been dating a guy for 1 year(I’m 27, he’s 26). This is his first serious relationship, but he’s had 30 some odd past partners, most of whom were men and only a couple of women. This is my first relationship ever, I actually lost my virginity to him. Prior to this relationship, I had done a lot of online sex (just video calls, but never did the real thing until him for various reasons including finally living on my own). We love each other tremendously, we treat each other well, and I know he’s a fantastic partner. We are monogamous and we value that, we do not want an open relationship or threesomes.

I am having trouble with 2 things. 1. I don’t like that he’s been with so many people. It feels like he’s more special to me than I am to him since he has tried everything already and I’m just there to fill the void of what he likes sexually. 2. I am jealous of him because he’s slept with women. I never did because I never really got attention from women and honestly I was kind of afraid of them. I don’t even really know how much I’m attracted to women, I’ve never tried. It feels like he’s tried life’s buffet and I’ve only tried one (albeit amazing) thing. It may just be that I’m insecure and worried that I’ll regret not having the experience. I know 100% he’s the only man I’ll ever need, but I just don’t know if I would’ve preferred a woman.

I’m in therapy for anxiety and it has gotten a bit better, but I just wanted to see if anyone else shared this experience and what advice they can offer.