I (29F) just went on a first date after being discarded (4 months ago) from a 2.5 year relationship (he proposed while manic then discarded me). I understand it’s a little soon to date (I feel totally comfortable being alone, just testing the waters). This guy I went on a date with is cute, charming, responsible…etc.

With my ex (first really serious relationship) I knew I liked him immediately. However, with this guy it’s like a slow burning spark rather than a quick flame like I’m used to (mind you my ex was completely normal and this was his first episode).

I am home from this date wondering what is love? Should you know right away?

After the discard I realized love is as much of a choice as it is a feeling.

I guess being discarded is a little disorienting becuase it’s like your partner got possessed and exists somewhere but in the meantime this demon man has taken over and you don’t know where ur ex is so you have to assume they died.