November 1-2 approaches day of the dead. The idea is to celebrate our deceased loved ones. Rather than feel sad for the loss, we can be happy about the times we spend together. I think it’s a really beautiful holiday and perhaps we can take this time to think of all the good things we did with our SO and acknowledge that the old them is “deceased.” Find forgiveness and let their spirits fly with the butterflies. Remember forgiveness does not mean there’s not consequences and does not mean we must sacrifice boundaries. It means acknowledging our SO are really severely mentally sick. They’re making connections that don’t make sense, their brain is connecting the wrong dots. That’s not the person we know and love. That person and our dreams with them have died.

Watch coco, light some candles, make an alter, cry, talk about them, write poetry, sing songs, grieve as if they are passed and remember there were bad and good times!! We will all be okay. Life is hard and we will get through it. We do not have control over Gods plan/the universes plan. We need to be honest with ourselves and accept that truth. We can speak positive onto ourselves and accept that the wind will push us and we can be happy in the moment. Instead of saying “I wish things were” or “what if,” say “what will I do when” or “how can I call on Gods/universes during this time,” “how can I trust that I will be okay.” What is the bigger picture of life for you? For me it’s to love in all ways and to better myself and follow my dreams. Anyways, keep Day of the Dead in mind as we grieve this season. We gonna be alright I promise!!