Hi there, My (recent) ex fiancé had his first bipolar 1 episode and did a TON of fucked up shit. Would someone who experienced this be willing to talk with me (phone call or chat) about your experience? It would be really nice to relate to someone.

Basically, he proposed to me while manic, then (according to my therapist) was emotionally and psychologically abusive. He even had to restrain himself from hitting me (he was able to restrain himself). I ran away from home, quit my job and left town because of him. Then after two days of breaking up he slept with a girl he met in the hospital.

And this is just the surface of what happened. He said a lot of shit. Even asked me to come back to the hospital to talk with the psychiatrist that dismissed the case as him just “going through a lot,” just for him to lie and trick me into being admitted myself. He told his family my biggest secret that he promised to nurture and not judge me for (I was in a 12 step for codependency at some point) then used that to say I was the enemy due to my “severe codependency and abandonment issues.”

Again, this is just the surface of what happened.

It’s fucked up because I have a history of bad relationships and worked so hard to have a healthy loving relationship. I did therapy weekly and journaling daily. I really felt I developed a sense of self and confidence which has been really helpful during the post-manic healing process. He knows I am afraid of infidelity (he also lied and said he cheated while manic), I’m afraid of ever being in an abusive situation (I have been in the past), that I have abandonment issues… and, he basically did everything he knew I was afraid of and more.

We dated 2.5 years and lived together. He trashed the apartment so I couldn’t even live there anymore. He also kicked me out and told me to find a place to stay for a few weeks. Where? That was up to me to figure out on a whim. I was basically homeless. The relationship was so healthy for the entirety so this manic episode was really was a shock.

Anyways, it would be nice to talk to and relate to someone who experienced this. I dont ever want to date him again. Ever. I don’t even know if I want to talk to him. I’m definitely not going to talk to him without a therapist present. DM me if you’re willing to talk about it and share your experience