I’ve spent so many years beating myself up and criticizing myself for not being good at handling a “regular job”, especially when I worked in restaurants. I picked up on everyone’s energy around me and I couldn’t handle when my bosses screamed at me. I called myself weak because everyone else seemed able to brush it off, but I couldn’t.

But now, my perception is changing. Maybe I’m not the one with the problem when it comes to being screamed at at work. Perhaps normalizing and expecting this behavior in the workplace is the problem.

I’ve started seeing my deep sense of empathy as a gift. I’m now focusing solely on the little business I run with my friends. I’m happier than I have been in a long time. Of course, I still have mental illnesses and they still require maintenance, but it’s easier now.

I can no longer work jobs making money for other people, doing something I don’t care about, and getting screamed at, especially not for $10/hour. I know I’m lucky to have the privilege of not working a regular job anymore. Money is definitely tight, but it’s worth it.

Not all of us were made to work “regular jobs”; We were made to follow a more unique path. Don’t beat yourself up for not fitting the mold. Make the mold fit you.