Everything I search online trying to understand the after effects of someone with bipolar disorder being cheated on it’s non existent. Article after article about a person with bipolar cheating on their partners, not the other way around.

I think my partners affair is the tipping point to my diagnosis.

Little backstory: My partner of 8-9 years, had a 4 year physical affair and then continued to speak to her on and off after the PA, in an attempt to keep her happy so I wouldn’t ever find out. Well… I did. 12/02/24 I checked his phone and I find everything. All the proof I needed all these years to validate what I thought could be true but couldn’t ever prove. I absolutely lost it.

As we’re reviewing past history and seeing patterns of bipolar in the past, this really did it. This pushed me into a manic episode and after two months of living this way and the depression and self harm started to get bad my PCP told me she wanted me to drive myself to the hospital and check in to be placed inpatient, which I was. We doubled my dose of lamotragine and it’s keeping any mania more under control although I’m starting to see signs again they just aren’t as dangerous or intense after the increase. I’m waiting to see a physiatrist next week and hoping this leads to really validate/confirm the diagnosis given to me in the hospital (I know they need to give you one to send you home with insurance) and my two therapists who think I truly have it, especially with the more obvious manic episode as of recently.

I just need to know, has anyone been cheated on? Has anyone gotten a diagnosis based off something like this? I hear stuff all the time about a major life event happening and causing this to happen but I don’t see a lot of support of people with bipolar people being cheated on vs doing the cheating. I honestly didn’t feel like anyone in my infidelity groups would understand unless there happens to be another bipolar betrayed spouse and thought maybe someone here could relate or have insight on diagnosis after a major event. Especially because I’m on 900mg of gabapentin 3x daily and 150mg of lamotragine x2 daily. So I’m already kinda being treated as someone with a formal diagnosis and afraid this will make me not get diagnosed? Thanks for reading all of this and thanks in advance for any insight or story’s you may have!