My wife is concerned that if we swing, she will not get attention. We are both bigger. (Over 250) and not tall. She has some body image issues as do I because we were more average a few years back.

We have a very solid relationship and are lacking nothing. She worries that when the time comes for clothing to come off, others won't find her attractive in the moment. She worries about her rolls, her boob size, how she smells down there (hygene is important, but, you know) and other things.

I do everything I can to build her up on these topics. I suggested we take Fenugreek for a couple weeks leading up to a meetup (it makes you smell like maple syrup), showers before meeting will help, treat a meetup like a date, rather than a booty call, etc.

I told her the most important thing to remember is that if a couple wants to meet us after picture exchanges, it is because there is the likelihood of attraction there.

Attraction is a two way street in swinging and if my wife isn't good enough for them, they aren't good enough for us.

Does anyone have some other advice for me on this?