Lesbisans and fellow bi-women please help.

do you find ut hard to find female partners wether it be purely sexual or romantic? I struggle with this.

I feel its so different with women than with guys . I feel like i have to be ON all the time if i am gonna hit on a female . I’ve been to a gay bar a few times ( there is no purley lesbian bar where i live so it was a lot of gay men there as well… )None of the females seemed intrested in me. I tried to dance with this girl and turnes out she was there with her boyfriend.

Lesbian dating apps have been tried as well but often the women like me and then dont answer when i write to them. 🤷‍♀️

I feel like when it comes to women I have to do super effort to talk and show interest, and even then they barley respond. I am insecure and have social angst so when I try to actively hit on someone I am really make an effort an it takes a lot of me . I dont have to do that as much when hitting on men , they come to me more and they take more initiative, so thats why i usually end up with men . But i wanna trY and be with a woman as i never been that before ..

Any advice? How do I approach other females?