I'm 23F and I've known I was bi for 2.5 years now. I was basically immediately out to my friends, and shortly after that out to my sister. During my journey I've had to battle feelings of not being queer enough or feeling like I'm faking my sexuality. I worked through a lot of that, and these days, I'm feeling very confidently bisexual.

For the past six months or so, I've been planning to come out to my parents. I've clearly been dragging my feet with that, and I've realized that thinking about fully coming out is bringing up a lot of internalized biphobia I thought I was past. I nearly came out to them last weekend, and I left feeling like a failure for not going through with it. I felt like I was making a big deal out of nothing, being attention seeking, and not queer enough to warrant coming out. At the same time, I've been the first sapphic date for three women now and all of them were already out to their parents (who were more traditional than mine). That makes me feel like I'm not as good of a dating prospect and that I'm not queer enough because I'm not out. Yet, I also feel like I won't be taken seriously when I come out unless I have a girlfriend. And on top of that, I'm now feeling anxious about my anxiety. I worry that I'm overthinking to the point of "ruining" it and preventing myself from getting to a point where I can come out. I'm even starting to worry about if my coming out goes well because then I would feel like I really was being dramatic and attention-seeking.

Logically, I know that none of these things are true. I'm queer, I can come out at my own pace, and ugly stereotypes about attention-seeking bisexuals are just bigotry. However, when I'm feeling down, I notice these thoughts coming up. Has anyone dealt with something similar? How did you deal with internalized biphobia when you were coming out?