Disclaimer : not shaming ppl who are into 3somes or couples dating together, but it's not what I'm looking for

I'm bored and feel a bit lonely because of covid, so I decided to install OkCupid again. In my past experience on tinder, I matched and went to A LOT of dates with men because they're in sheer abundance there, and barely matched with 15 bi women and met maybe 8 of them (dated for a while 2 of them, stayed long time friends with 3 others).

But wow, now... I've been on the app for 2 days, matched again with tons of men, and with a few girls, received literally ONE message from a girl and she was just into sending nudes, which I don't do. I specifically wrote in my bio that I'm bi but more attracted to girls, but the algorithm of the app shows me almost only men (also couples 🙄 I avoid those). Funny thing is that I matched with a cute guy who's poly and got his partner listed in his profile. I'm poly too, and found it weird that he insisted so much that I check out her profile (poly couples usually date separately). Also, I didn't even match with his partner, so be careful ladies, I think unicorn hunters are getting more "creative" in their approach of wasting our time lol. He even accused me of being a catfish because I stopped responding 🙄

So yeah basically I can't wait to go to a LGBT meeting or queer bar again, because finding a fellow bi woman who also wants short term/long term dating with women is hard AF. I don't even mind dating a married woman or a woman who already has a partner, I just want nothing to do with said partner, am I asking too much lol. I'm also afraid of having so few women matches because I don't look queer enough 😔 (I'm very "femme" presenting). How do you girls proceed on this app, except for sheer luck and a ton of swipes ? Feels like I'm in a sea of scammers, straight girls looking for friends, horny annoying cishet dudes and unicorn hunters, and I want to delete the app already 😂