I'm staying out of state with my mom for the next 4 days for the holidays and in showing her a text I sent to a friend I accidentally outed myself as liking girls as well as guys and as having kissed one. The message made it sound like I'm lesbian, but I'm pan. After she said she already knew (just shitty speculation on stereotypes her homophobic ass clings desperately too) she said "I don't think you really are, you're just going through so much and there's so much going on around you. I always wondered why you picked such bad guys" etc... etc...

News flash mom, anything other than heterosexuality isn't caused by trauma, the correlation between other sexualities and trauma is caused by assholes like you denying our existence and the fact that it isn't something that you get "turned" to by shitty stuff happening around you. I don't even have the energy to educate her but I also don't know how I'm going to survive the next 4 days knowing for sure this time that her homophobia is directed right at me. Looking to commiserate and get some support I can disappear into on my phone during the uncomfortable conversations I know I'll be having in the next few days. Godspeed to all the gaybies in the trenches this holiday season